Sunday, March 10, 2013

Long Distance Love

How do people do it?  How do you love across cities, states, countries?  Now, I'm not talking about love in the 'husband-wife' way (my hubby is still right here), but I'm talking about familial love with distant relatives.  Growing up, I just knew that I was going to marry someone from Baltimore, live in Columbia (suburb outside of Baltimore), and see my family as often as I wanted.  So, how did I end up living 12 hrs (by car, 14 with the kids) or 2 hrs (by plane) away?

First, let me say that I love living in Atlanta and I'm so grateful that my in-laws live around the corner.  However, it is days like today, that I miss living an hours drive away.  I miss being able to hop in the car and meet my best friend for breakfast or meet my mom and sister at the mall for another unnecessary, but fun shopping trip.  And today, I miss that I couldn't be in the room to eat birthday cake with my grandmother.  After about an hour of technical snafus, we were finally able to connect via video chat on Google hangouts.  And though, no one was able to clearly hear me, I was able to see the faces of my mom, sister, aunt, grandmother, and a host of cousins.  And as they began to sing 'Happy birthday', my tears began to roll.  I guess in a way they were tears of joy.  Joyful, that at least I was able to see the event, even though I wasn't physically there.

The hardest part about being in another state is knowing that my children don't have the same type of relationship with  both sides of the family.  While they see my in-laws on a near daily basis, they may only see my side of the family during the summer months.  Its not so bad for my daughter, since she was almost 2 before we moved away, however, my son doesn't have as close a bond as she does.  This summer will be the first time he goes to visit without me and I'm looking forward to it.  Not just because the hubby and I could use some alone time, but because it will give my son the opportunity to bond with my family without hanging around my legs.    Hopefully this will be the start of a yearly tradition.

Though this was never the type of relationship I thought I'd have with my family, I am quite happy that we live in the technology age.  Even though Skype, Tango, and Google hangouts give us trouble almost every time we try to use them, I'm glad that we even have the options.  It is so nice for the family to be able to see how big the kids have gotten.  And until I strike it rich and am able to hop on a plane whenever I want, I suppose I'll have to live with loving my family long distance.

the lipgloss junkie